Monday, 7 April 2014

Dressing To My Own Shape... A Pear Shape

Hi my name is Alice and I am PEAR SHAPED... that was harder to say out loud than you'd think!
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Sometimes in life you look in the mirror after you have spent ages getting dressed and still think...
Actually, I do it quite a lot at the moment and I'm struggling to find the me I want to be in, well, any clothes I own, because nothing I have fits anymore, if it ever did in the first place. It's no secret that I've never been comfortable with my body shape but I am desperate to change that, feel good about me and regenerate that confidence I used to have. As lets face it, I'm never going to be any other shape but pear, having kids has set that in stone.
So I have set myself a challenge and with a small budget I am planning on dumping all my old clothes that fit badly and invest in some that suit me and my 'pear' shaped body.

I have already started and I have 3 bin bags of clothes going to the charity shop.... eeeek!
I may be doing a bit of a Gok Wan on myself
If only I had Gok Wan's wage to do it with.
I found this really cool website about how to dress for your shape and look good in it. It's the first one I've read and said 'right I get it now' so hopefully you'll find it as helpful.


This is what I learnt whilst reading about dressing a pear shape:

The pear-shaped woman, also called triangle body, has more weight in the lower part with the hips and the backside wider than the shoulders. It is actually the most common body shape and many celebrities such as J. Lo, Beyoncé and Alicia Keys are categorized as pear-shaped women

Emphasise the waistline and broaden the shoulders to balance the body.
Always wear dark colours on the bottom half and bright colours on the top half NEVER the other way round. Bright embellished tops are a must and big statement jewellery can draw the attention to the right part of your body.
A-Line is basically the key to a happy pear.

Wear dresses that accentuate the waist and don't wear clingy materials or pencil skirts, just floating material that skims your hips and bottom half. If your thighs are the problem part of you (like mine are) then try and avoid short skirts that stop at the part you dislike the most as it brings attention to it and you'll be happy with that when you don't feel uncomfortable when you realise in the mirror half way through your night out like I used to. This is difficult for me as I am 6ft with long legs so what is long on most of you, is a mini on me, finding skirts that are the right length is a challenge.
With trousers, avoid big jazzy pockets and embellishments on the bottom half of your body and NO SKINNY JEANS (damn I only own skinny jeans). Floatier trousers such as wide hemmed cut ones are much more flattering for a pear. ALWAYS wear trousers with a high waist, it brings your hips in and there is nothing worse than a muffin top on a pair of lovely jeans (again, damn it, I only own low rise jeans *hmmmmph* this is going to be harder than it seems).
With tops, try and avoid those that sit at the hip, including jackets, wear longer tops that elongate the skinny part of your beautiful self. Shorter ones cut off your figure and brings attention to the bottom half of your body. Layering is also a good way to balance out your figure, a blazer/cardigan over a t-shirt can do the job really well. Peplum tops are also great as they will create an optical illusion and make the hips look narrower. Go for tops with sleeves, especially reinforced and cap ones, that will add volume to the shoulders making them more proportional to the hips.

To summarize everything in just one phrase Gok styley,
Anything that brings the eye towards the top half of your body, shows off your small waist and conceals the width of your hips will look great!

Where can I shop?...

as long as you know what you're looking for.

I always shop onlne now, easier without the kids in tow and all that, but I think that is where I'm going wrong.
I need to go shopping.
I need to even get myself a personal shopper to show me what's what, how cool would that be?!
But I need to do it on a budget... a tight budget.
So I researched some nearby Designer Outlets, ones that I could get to without the kids in tow, for a 'me day' where I found my way in the fashion world again. I found this little beauty.
London Designer Outlet, in Wembley, is home to over 70 outlets, restaurants and cafes.
It is the destination for outlet shopping, eating and entertainment in the capital - open seven days a week, morning to night. Get bargains from leading high street namesaspirational labels and lifestyle brands at outlet prices of up to 70% off RRP.
I love a good designer outlet and I'm often at Wembley for either football, gigs or a trip to Ikea so I am quite excited about making my way there at some point soon.
Now to window shop what styles I like now that I'm a twenty something mum of two, with a pear shaped backside... rather than a teen still free to wear what she wanted even though she was a little baby pear then too.
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If I had my way, I'd be living in the 1950's as a cool upper class lady, with a nanny to deal with the children whilst I did my victory rolls and perfect make up with my lovely fitted A Line dress....
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I love the vintage look, if I could get away with it I'd dress like this every single day, even when gardening (not that I do the gardening).
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Maybe that can be where I get back to.
Maybe that is the new/old me...

I'm quite looking forward to getting it right. I'll try and keep you updated on my finds over the time.

Wish me luck...

I wasn't paid to write this post but I did receive a voucher from LDO as a thank you for mentioning their outlet. for more info find my disclosure policy here.

Wednesday, 2 April 2014

I couldn’t cope in your shoes…

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The moment you find out you’re pregnant,
Is the moment that the unconditional love for that child begins.
The moment you receive a diagnosis,
Is the moment that your unconditional love for them becomes your strength.
It guides you on your everlasting journey as a parent.
You’ll never lose that strength,
Because it’s powered by that unconditional love you’ve had from the beginning…
And unconditional love is just that….
You may think you wouldn’t cope in those shoes,
The truth is,
Once you’re in them…
You just do!
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After a lovely chat with a very good friend, of whom is as mental as me with a similar situation but much busier than mine, about how people often say to us...
'I don't know how you do it?!'
'I wouldn't cope in your shoes'
or even
'you've coped so well considering, how do you do it?'
Each said in a lovely way that means 'you're doing a great job for what life has thrown at you' which is lovely... but when you live the life of a parent with a child (or children) with any sort of additional need you just do what needs to be done, no fuss, just gets done because it has to.
When I say
'Anyone would do the same'
I mean it.
Unconditional love isn't just something parents with children who may need a little extra attention have... it is just simply a parent thing, something we all hold.
So yes, you could cope in my shoes because it is just as natural as tucking your child into bed at night with a kiss to the forehead and a 'sweet dreams'.
You should think more of your abilities as a parent, you'd be fine.
We are all amazing.
Jenny from, who also took these amazing pics, has written a piece about how she does 'IT'
Read all about 'IT' here...


Tuesday, 1 April 2014

How to brighten up your home tastefully this spring

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At last, the weather has started to get a little warmer, the sun is shining and there are daffodils everywhere. For many, a change in the weather means a change in the home.

I'm getting the decorating itch again and I am desperate to brighten up my house as the décor has become quite stale.
So where do you start when you begin to brighten up your house? I asked the masses...
Here are the answers I got...

Pick a colour scheme

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Instead of diving head first into your design project, take a minute or two to consider a colour scheme. If not, you may end up with an overly eclectic look as opposed to a tasteful revamp.

Tick those repairs off your to-do list

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We’re all guilty of leaving household repairs to the last minute. They just seem like too much of a chore in the winter months. However, come spring, we often feel a little more energised, which means we can finally begin to tick a few tasks off that endless to-do list.

As the weather begins to get a little warmer, this is also a good time to make a few structural changes if they are needed. Investing in the likes of double glazing for sash windows is a great idea. Cleaning up any tired-looking window sills and window panes will allow the sunlight to enter the home more freely, brightening the entire area up.

Create a mood board

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If you’re planning on redecorating an entire room, it’s important to create a mood board. This will allow you to plan a colour palette, a floor plan and a style. Collecting cuttings from interior magazines, gathering printouts from the Internet and accumulating fabric samples will help you to do this.

Bring the outdoors in

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Nothing quite says spring like a colourful floral display in the home. Investing in various vases and filling them with beautiful flowers will instantly brighten up a drab space. Keeping the flowers similar shades or opting for arrangements that boast colour opposites is a great way to brighten up any room in a tasteful manner.

Create a feature wall

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If you’re on a budget yet wish to add a dramatic look to a bedroom, a living room or a dining room, creating a feature wall is an easy and cost-effective solution. You can either paint the wall a vivid hue or use stencils to add typography. Alternatively, you can invest in just the one roll of snazzy wallpaper to liven up your room. Apart from taking little time to complete, such a technique will quickly transform the look and feel of an entire room at a fraction of the cost.

Paint pot at the ready, I think I am set to start my revamp....
I may even let Hoff help!

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